It’s Thanksgiving and in honor of the spirit of Thanksgiving I am dedicating this post to the idea of gratitude, or at least as best I understand gratitude. Let me begin with the words of that famous theologian John Lennon, “life is what happens to you while you’re making plans.” We could debate whether this is an accurate statement. We could debate whether the Beatles were the best band of all time, but, for the sake of argument, I am going to suggest that it is accurate, at least it is in my own experience. Life happens to me all the time while I am making plans but I don’t think that is the point. The point is, how am I responding to life as it happens to me while I’m making plans? Most of the time I do not respond with gratitude. I am not grateful that, once again, my plans have been screwed up by some unforeseen circumstance, person, or event that was not part of my plans. I tend not to live my life with openness; open hands, open heart, open spirit…but I want to, I think.
A good rule of thumb is when in doubt quote someone that makes your point better than you could. I think that Gandalf had it right when he responded to Frodo’s despair about being the bearer of the ring. The life that Frodo was living was very different than the one he had planned, and he found himself wishing that the ring had never come to him and that the ring’s burden was not his to bear. Gandalf’s said, “So do I, and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for us to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” Gandalf’s shifted Frodo’s focus away from the unplanned events that happened to him to the one thing he could do, decide how he was going to respond to what had been given to him.
I am not sure that gratitude is the right word for responding to the life that happens to me while I am making plans, but I am starting to think that maybe it is. Is it because the unplanned moments of life open me up to the possiblity, the slightest possibility that a great part of my life’s story unfolds out of these times? I have often read about significant people in history whose lives became more significant and more meaningful because they refused to close themselves off to the circumstances, people and events that interrupted their plans.
In closing I quote again, this time from the doorway of the Staunton Harold parish church in Leicestershire, England.
“In the yeare: 1653. When all things sacred were throughout the Nation either demolisht or profaned. Sir Robert Shirley Barronet founded this church; whose singular praise it is to have done the best things in the worst times and to have hoped them in the most calamitous.”
As counter-intutitive as it may sound, I suspect that a grateful spirit is a common characteristic shared by people who do the best things in the worst times and hope them in the most calamitous. Translation, be grateful for your life even if it’s not the one you planned.
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